Love, Infatuation, Lust

Those 3 words got a thin line between them. Most of the time you won´t be able to seperate or distinguish them.Those 3 words are like a chain.

But this might open your mind about the actual definition of those 3 words.

Love is usually pure and a feeling that is mildly possessive but with lots of care, too.

Infatuation can be detected easily, when a persons says he loves someone, but is unwilling to talk, make any eye contact, or willing to do anything at all, but stay away, remaining shy.

Lust can be known if your “love” shifts easily from one person to another, and lust is usually expressed through short physical/emotional (but mostly physical relationships.

Keep in mind that in most relationships, you’re feeling all three (love, infatuation, and lust) all at once, to some degree.

Lasting relationships are those that are built on love - not infatuation or lust. Imagine the person you love in 50 years when they are old and fat. Would that change how you feel about them? If yes, then what you feel now is most likely lust/infatuation - not love.

Friendship should also weigh into your decision to commit. In 50 years, if you don’t genuinely LIKE your mate, you’re going to be miserable.

Remember that jealousy is not a result of love. It is more likely to be a result of infatuation, insecurity or fear of being alone. Are you in love with being in relationships?

A major life-changing decision like moving in together, getting engaged or getting married should be a natural step if you love someone. It should not inspire fear.
Take advantage of the post coital “moment of clarity” to examine your feelings. This is not usually the moment directly after orgasm (where most people are happy with the universe), but 5 or 10 minutes later, when your breathing and heart rate are normal. At this point, does the sex still make you feel closer to that person? Or are you beginning to feel regret and anxiety about what happened? If the latter, then it’s most definitely not love but lust. (In this matter it happens to unmarried couple that they have sex before married, but again, it depends to the couple)

Give it some time. Love takes root slowly and grows with time. Infatuation grows into full bloom almost immediately.

Keep in mind that “True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be and will not be.” (Unknown)

What comes to mind when you think about this person. If you are not dating the person, think if you are eager to spend time with them or you just want to watch them from a distance. If you are in a relationship with the person, What do you want most out of the relationship. If you just want to consummate love to the person it is usually lust. True love is when you could love a person without ever “dropping your drawers” so to speak.

If you’re not sure about your feelings or your relationship, take things slowly. Spend time apart and see how you are feeling while you are away. Do you miss the person? Or are you more attracted to others when you are apart?

You may also want to consider the fact that it’s not always as easy as being one of these three things; often there are a lot of grey areas, the distinctions are blurred, and it is very possible to feel two or even all of these feelings for a person..just know that lust is not a GOOD thing when it comes to the interest of only one person in the relationship.

Well, hope now we do know about the thin line between those words. Gotta be careful. Head or heart, both are very important. Just watch your step =)

-K-

Source: From the internet with additional opinion ;) so, enjoy, relax and be careful choosing your feeling ;)